Not Bitter, Just Better!

When it comes to your quality of life, especially in your life after divorce, attitude is everything!  In fact, it has even be said that whatever you focus on the most, you tend to bring into your life, whether by choice or by circumstance. 

  

Have you ever known someone who had a terrible attitude? They may have been extremely negative and pessimistic, and were not much fun to be around; or they complained non-stop about how terrible their life was. Did you find it draining to be in their presence? A negative attitude will not only make you miserable, but everyone around you too!  

  

A positive attitude, on the other hand, turns you into a woman that everyone wants to be with; a woman that constantly experiences great things, and a woman who loves life!  Is that the kind of woman you want to be?  If so, here are some tips to help you develop and maintain a positive attitude and ultimately a better life.

 

Do what you love! 

This applies to hobbies and fun activities, but it also pertains to one of the biggest parts of your life ~ your work!  Do you enjoy your career?  Are you spending most of your time on something that you are passionate about that makes you feel fulfilled? If not, consider exploring other career options and moving toward a job you will love. When you regularly do things that make you happy, you can not only help but feel better about yourself and your life, which fosters a positive attitude.

 

Always expect the best! 

Life after divorce can often seem overwhelming and it can be easy to get into the habit of seeing the doom and gloom in every situation if you let it. However, doing so keeps you forever focused on the negative. Instead, make a conscious decision to expect the best, even if your first impulse is to think negatively. Fill your life with positive affirmations as often as you can. Even writing down a simple thought such as, “This is going to work out great!” or  “Wonderful things are going to happen today!” can make a significant difference. The more you make these positive affirmations, the more you train your subconscious and the more you begin to believe it, the more you will begin to experience just that.

 

Build yourself up! 

Think and speak positively to and about yourself every day. After going through a difficult time such as divorce, it is easy to get in the habit of being hard on yourself and talking down to yourself, especially if you were often criticized in your marriage. This can leave you feeling hopeless, frustrated and pessimistic.  Get into the habit of building yourself up with positive self-talk and thoughts.  Affirm your good qualities and downplay your negative ones. Also make it a practice to focus on everything you have in your life to be grateful for.

 

Build others up! 

As often as you can, make an effort to encourage, support and compliment the people you encounter each day. That goes for those in your life who are important to you, as well as strangers you meet in your daily travels. It is amazing how a simple gesture can bring a smile to someone else’s face. The more you focus on recognizing the positive in others, the more others will be attracted to you, and the better you’re going to feel about yourself too.

 

Think strength! 

The more you choose to focus on and worry about your failures and weaknesses, the more pessimistic and negative you are going to feel. Instead, consistently affirm your strengths, talents and capabilities. This will enable you to feel empowered and in control of your circumstances, which cannot help but improve your attitude and ultimately, your life.

 

Life after divorce is challenging, but with the right attitude you can have a better life than before. Most of all, though, affirm that you are a work in progress; not perfect, but great nonetheless!